RULER is an evidence-based approach to social and emotional learning (SEL) that was developed by the Yale School of Emotional Intelligence.
Farmington uses this approach K to 12 to help students develop confidence and the ability to self-regulate their emotions in order to thrive in the learning environment.
RULER stands for the 5 skills of emotional intelligence:
R – Recognize emotions in oneself and others
U – Understand the reason for and consequences of these emotions
L – Label emotions using accurate and rich vocabulary
E – Express feelings in a productive way
R – Regulate and manage emotions effectively
Research shows that emotions influence:
RULER at Home:
Help children understand that our feelings are normal
When faced with a challenge, ask, “How do you feel about that?”
Listen and validate emotions
Encourage the use of specific words to describe feelings (“worried” vs “bad”)
Talk about what might have caused heightened emotions
When children are in a calm place, encourage reflection and discussion about the situation
Brainstorm productive strategies for regulating emotions such as counting to ten or taking a time out to help regulate emotions
Support children in navigating conflicts using statements that begin with, “I feel _____ when you_____”
